4 Times When Your Silence Is Very Bad For Your Relationship
Silence isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it can sometimes lead to deeper troubles in relationships. Here are four types of silence that are usually harmful to relationships.
1. YOU GIVE EACH OTHER THE SILENT TREATMENT.
Silent treatment is a situation when you think not talking to your partner will make them realize their mistake or feel punished for their actions. It usually a product of anger resulting from a fight.
However, this type of silent do more harm than good. It confuses your partner, produces misunderstanding, and prolongs a bad situation. By giving your partner the silent treatment, you are also hurting yourself.
2. THERE IS NOTHING LEFT TO SAY.
When you get home from work and you sit down for dinner and the two of you have nothing to say to one another, you have to ask yourself why?
It’s a miserable existence to go about your life with your partner in silence. We all need to speak and we all have something to say. If you don’t want to tell them about your day and hear about theirs or if you despise them so much that their voice in any tone simply annoys you, then you should probably end things or at least seek counseling to try and figure it out.
Communication is so important in a relationship and when it ᴅɪᴇs, your relationship ᴅɪᴇs with it.
3. YOU’RE BOTH SHUTTING DOWN.
There are times in a disagreement where nothing is getting accomplished, no common ground exists and you’ve reached the point where you’re beating a ᴅᴇᴀᴅ horse. This is the point where you retreat. You shut down and close off. You start to agree with them, just to shut them up or just completely go cold all together.
This is the point where you are not at all open to continuing the conversation and that’s OK, but you need to express that properly. Let your partner know that you need some time to consider what they’ve said. Tell them you need a moment to soak it all in. If they are reasonable, they will understand and allow you to have it.
Just don’t shut down without saying something. Don’t do so without letting the person know that you need to exit the situation. With that said, don’t ever go to bed mad. You don’t sleep well and you wake up in a really awkward situation the next morning. That isn’t fun at all for either of you.
4. YOU’RE NOT RESPONDING TO TEXT MESSAGES FOR AN EXTENDED AMOUNT OF TIME.
If you’re texting with your partner and you just suddenly disappear, it leaves them wondering where you went and that opens the door for negative thoughts. Communication is huge, just do your best to make your partner aware if you will be away from your phone for a while or if you can’t text back right away at the moment. It takes two seconds to say “Hey, I’m going to be unavailable for a bit, but I’ll be thinking about you.”
Problem solved, nobody is wondering and everybody is happy. You can do what you do and they aren’t sitting there waiting for you to get back to them.
Silence is the most misunderstood and misinterpreted type of human interaction, but it’s easy to understand and accept if we communicate ahead of time.
