Every bride envisions her wedding day as a perfect blend of pleasure, love, and celebration. But what happens when someone shatters this peace with a surprising and cruel remark? For one bride, her mother-in-law’s remark about her mother spoiled what should have been her happiest day ever.
She recounted what had transpired.
I recently married and discovered that my mother-in-law and my actual mother had a tiny… incident during the ceremony. To summarize, my mother-in-law made some snarky remarks about my mother not being dressed appropriately for the wedding and implied that she did not look nice.
My mother is a quiet woman, so she didn’t say anything beyond a half-hearted praise on my MIL’s clothing. My mother was dressed traditionally for our culture, and everyone thought she looked gorgeous. My companion and I both thought she looked fantastic.
I only found out about this the day after the wedding, and I was mad. I told my husband, and he was very angry and ready to go and confront his mother about this. But I told him not to.
For context, his mother is quite unreasonable and difficult to deal with and has been rather unpleasant. She’s very vain and obsessed with her appearance. Knowing that, I wanted to get some sort of vengeance for my mum.
I sent my wedding photographer a message with a simple request.
I requested that every unflattering photo of my mother-in-law be modified and included in our deliverables, as well as any excellent shots of her removed. The photographer had previously stated that there may be some skin touch-ups or beautifying techniques applied to persons in the photographs. I specifically requested that nothing be done for my mother-in-law.
I’m not sure what I expected, but BOY, DID MY PHOTOGRAPHER DELIVER. There were photographs showing her yelling at children, another with food in her teeth, and so on. I’m not going to lie; I laughed a little.
Anyway, she saw the images and is upset. I feel awful for her because the photographs are available for everyone to see. She asked that I take some of them down, and I said that I would have to ask the photographer to do so, which could take a few days.
My boyfriend feels horrible and caught in the middle, and he believes that I should not have done this and should have simply allowed him to confront his mother. He also stopped by my mother’s place to talk about the incident and apologize for it. I still stand by my decisions, however. Nobody bothers with my mother and makes her feel awful about herself, especially during my wedding.
But I guess I could have done the constructive thing and actually communicated with my MIL.
