When we start new relationships, everything seems to be going perfectly. But when this honeymoon stage is over, you can tell whether your relationship will be long-term or short-term. You can notice signs which tell you that your relationship is not meant to be and below are mentioned 8 of those signs.
1. You don’t talk about the future together.
One of the signs of a relationship not working, is if you’ve been dating for a while but haven’t talked about your future. For instance, if you’ve been living together for 18 months but your partner refuses to discuss marriage, it could be a big red flag. If you didn’t have the “marriage” talk before moving in, you could find yourself in a difficult position. Maybe you want marriage, and they don’t or visa versa. Have the difficult conversation and get on the same page. It’s better to find out now, than when you’re invested too deep.
2. You are together only because you are physically attracted to each other.
There is only passion, nothing more. For a relationship to become long lasting, you need to connect not only on physical level but also on others.
3. You are not honest with each other.
You can’t open up about various things. One of the reasons why it happens is because people can’t trust each other, thus they avoid expressing their true feelings. Moreover, you feel uncomfortable being honest with your partner because you are afraid that he will judge you.
4. There are no fights, but no communication either.
You believe you’re in a blissful, stress-free relationship because you don’t fight. But what you might not realize is that fighting is a form of communication. It happens when couples are trying to reach a compromise together. Couples who don’t fight aren’t communicating their feelings. It’s a sign that they don’t want to work their conflicts out, which could signal the end of a relationship.
5. You don’t like your partner’s friends.
The company you keep defines who you are. People are usually drawn to make friends with folks who like the same things they like or have the same qualities they have. So, if you don’t like their friends, this can be one of the signs of breakup. Why? You’re likely going to discover more things about them that you might not like as well. Remember, friends reflect who you are.
6. You have similar interests and you only get involved in them.
It is important for couples to have similar hobbies or activities which they like. However, when you limit yourself only to those, you forget other things which you like to do but your other half doesn’t. When you pay attention only to those things which your partner and you enjoy, you lose your sense of uniqueness and it can also lead to a break-up.
7. There’s no empathy.
Your partner had a huge fight with their best friend, but you can’t understand why they’re so depressed about it. So, you become dismissive of their feelings. But the lack of empathy for what your partner is going through is another sign that the relationship won’t last. If you’re attuned to each other, you must be able to understand and imagine each other’s struggles since empathy is also a form of connectedness. If this feeling doesn’t exist, you’re in a broken relationship.
8. There is no balance between giving and taking.
Are you always the one who gives or the one who takes? If you can’t ever reach positive compromises and you are always willing to do something your partner wants, he will eventually ignore your opinion about every matter and it is one of the main signs of a toxic relationship.
References: thelawuniverse.com, powerofpositivity.com
