For countless women, the ultimate dream involves being happily in a romantic relationship with a man who loves you as much as you love him. A lot of women kiss a lot of frogs before they find their Prince Charming. Unfortunately, there are many women who will spend a lot of time on Mr. Wrong before they find Mr. Right.
In many instances, the wrong guy will prove himself unworthy through the way he treats you. If he treats you like a backup plan, it’s time to move on. Ironically, it can be hard for some women to tell. Consider these ten signs that he only sees you as a backup plan.
1. No One Knows About You
When a person is in love, they naturally shout it from the rooftops. It’s such an exciting experience to be loved and love someone in return. If you don’t feel that sense of pride, this is not good. If you haven’t met anyone in his family, you’re not that important to him. To make matters worse, a guy will usually introduce his new girlfriend to his friends. If you haven’t met his friends, he’s not serious about you. Many people keep their relationships off of social media until it’s definitely official. If you don’t even get a mention on any of his social media pages, it could be that he’s also entertaining other women and you’re just one of many.
2. He doesn’t try to make plans with you.
When two people are in love, they naturally want to spend time together. Even before two people fall in love, if they know there’s interest, they’re going to make time for each other. Even the busiest people figure out a way to carve out time for the things and people that care about most. If he doesn’t try to make plans with you, it means that you’re not a priority to him.
3. He Has A Habit Of Disappearing
Everyone is glued to their phone at some point in the day. Whether they’re scrolling through social media posts, checking email or making phone calls, people get a hold of their phone at some point. This means they’ve seen your text messages. This also means they’ve seen your phone calls and voicemail messages. If he doesn’t get back to you or pick up the phone when you call, it means he isn’t trying to be in touch with you unless it’s beneficial for him. Trust me, you don’t want to experience a lack of communication when you’re in a romantic relationship. Relationships should be all about reciprocity and respect.
4. He doesn’t take the conversation deeper.
Many women naturally want details. If you find that you’re in conversation with the guy and he doesn’t seem to open up, this might mean that he’s shy. However, it could also mean that he doesn’t want to allow you in his world in an intimate way. When somebody shares personal details of their life, they’re allowing you to experience a certain level of intimacy. These details are ones that most people don’t know. These details are some of the reasons why he is the way he is. In order for a relationship to really thrive, there’s a level of emotional intimacy that must take place. If he’s not letting you into his world, take that as a sign that you’re not welcome.
5. He’s available to have ÅŸÎx.
Most guys won’t turn down a sεxυαℓ encounter with a woman they’re dealing with. For many men, ÅŸÎx doesn’t equate to love. In fact, many men can have ÅŸÎx with no feelings attached. If you find that he tends to available for some midnight action, but no other time, he’s using you for your body and this isn’t fair to you. Don’t get emotionally entangled here.
6. His phone is more interesting.
If it seems like he spends a lot more time scrolling when he’s in your presence, he’s bored. Most people use their phones as a diversion from other things they need to do. Distractions are okay at times. However, a guy shouldn’t need a distraction from a woman he’s interested in. Take this as a hint that he is not interested in you.
7. There’s No Effort
When a guy is really into you, he’ll make an effort to woo you. He understands that you could date other guys if you wanted to. Knowing this, he’s going to do all in his power to prove that he’s the right guy for you to choose. If he’s not making this type of effort, this means that he doesn’t care because he’s not committed to getting to know you deeply.
8. He’s Unreasonably Private
When a guy is really interested in you, he actually wants to share his world with you. He’ll want you to see where he lives, learn more about his job and learn more about his journey in life. If he doesn’t invite you to his home, invite you into his life or even tell anybody that you exist, these are red flags. Consider these red flags as official signs that you need to run. If you’re his backup plan, there’s no need for you to become intimate with the details of his life because you’re not there to stay.
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