Sorry ladies, but you’re not the only ones who aren’t in the mood.
There’s about a two-thirds chance that your husband or boyfriend is making up an excuse not to have intimacy in bed with you, according to a new report.
In a survey of 1,000 people from across the country by adult t0y expert AdamandEve.com, 66% of men say they come up with an excuse not to have s*x with their partner, with 74% of those men saying they do so between one and five times per month.
“Contrary to popular belief, men don’t want to have s*x all the time,” said Chad Davis, director of marketing for Adam and Eve. “And because of that stereotype, many men feel as if they have to make up an excuse to cover the fact that they just don’t want to have s*x at the moment.”
Among men’s top five excuses:
– I’m tired/I’m sleepy
– I have a headache
– I have to get up early tomorrow/I have to work the next day
– I don’t feel well/I have body aches/I’m sore/I’m in pain
– I am under stress/too distracted
“She didn’t let me know that she had found out that I made up an excuse,” said one man surveyed. “However, I knew that she knew. I supposed she did not say anything to avoid a dispute,” he said.
With 34% of men saying their partner has caught them lying about not wanting to have s*x, the survey revealed that their spouses became angry, frustrated, upset or sad after they were refused s*x. Sixty percent of women said they felt upset, and 30% said they were frustrated after their partner gave them an excuse not to have sex.
“People naturally expect their partner to give them s*xual pleasure,” said Davis. “So when that pleasure is denied, it can really be devastating. Denying your partner that kind of pleasure can easily have disastrous effects on any relationship.”
Not surprisingly this is putting a strain on relationships, with more than half of men saying their excuses have made things awkward between them and their spouse. Additionally, 30% of males claimed they had conversations about ending their relationships because of their excuses to not have s*x.
Some respondents were mildly annoyed their partners were not upfront and honest about how they felt. Others said the issue led to a breakup, divorce or infidelity.
S*x toys, lingerie, talking dirty, p0rn0graphy, kissing, hugging, romantic dinners, dates and s*xual role-play are the top things women try to get their partners into the mood, according to the survey.
Source: nydailynews.com