Do you ever feel like you could disappear and your man wouldn’t notice? Here’s how to make him worry about losing you and stop taking you for granted.
1. Talk about the future without him
As you talk about any future events, make it seem like it’s not a given that he’s part of the plans. This doesn’t necessarily have to mean talking about your long-term life plans. It could be as simple as talking about a road trip or weekend plans without him being involved. All you need to do is say “I” instead of “we.” It’s a subtle change, but the majority of guys should be smart enough to pick up on it. He’ll notice it, trust me.
2. Reduce texting
Most of ladies are always texting. However, constant texting puts all of your cards on the table and shows your interest and commitment. If you cut back on your messaging and aren’t always the first to reach out, he’ll start to wonder why. It could force him to take more of a lead in the relationship. It could also make him think that you have more important things to do than talk to him.
3. Flirt with other men
This is dangerous territory because you could lose your man if you overdo it but as long as you know the line and don’t cross it, flirting with others will make him jealous.
Don’t go overboard but if you simply check out some handsome guy and give him a smile, it can be very effective.
Flirting with someone else will do much more than make your man jealous. He’ll realize that you can take your pick of the guys and yet you chose him, so he needs to choose you.
Another handsome man is like a threat to your man, especially if he flirts back.
Maybe you don’t even have to look for such a man. As long as he sees someone else hitting on you, he’ll realize that you could leave him.
He needs to know that he doesn’t own you and that you can be with someone else, maybe even someone who’d treat you better than he does.
Don’t keep flirting with other men if you’re in a serious relationship. Just once will be enough for him to get the message and be afraid of losing you.
4. Glamorize your looks
When in a relationship, it’s common for people to get so comfortable that they let their appearance fade. If this resonates with you it’s time to start glamourizing the way that you look when you’re with him and when you’re not with him. So, dress well and look your best he’s going to notice when other men are paying more attention to you. That’s going to remind him that other men find you attractive.
It’s so important for you to look better for you to look different and he’s going to question if it’s because you want to be attractive to other men. Also, this is going to provoke just a little bit of fear that someone else could hijack you.
5. Be willing to walk away
You must be willing to walk away from someone and something if it isn’t working. You can’t lie to yourself or bargain with yourself that although he isn’t really what you’re looking for that he will change or that things will get better. Believe me, they won’t and if anything they will only get worse. In addition, in order for him to really appreciate you, he needs to experience this fear of loss essentially the fear of losing you.
This fear will be even greater if you’re at your best self because this type of fear is in fact rooted in love. When you really like someone, you want them to know how valuable and important the relationship is and you want to know that your feelings are being reciprocated so you treat them with as much affection and consideration as you can and that is exactly how you should be treated in return don’t settle for anything less.
6. Make new friends
A good man will typically become comfortable with your friends. But if you start making new ones, he might start to think that he’s losing you. Maybe one of your new friends is a guy or will introduce you to a new guy. More than anything, it’s a meaningful change in your life. That can get a guy thinking that you’re moving on to a different part of your life. That’s enough to make him think he could lose you.
7. Appear bored when he talks
This is a little mean and a sign of a bad woman. Yet, it will make him think twice about where he stands with you. If you seem uninterested when he tells a story or talks about his day, he’ll start to wonder if he’s good enough for you (or if you’re going off him). He may not assume that you’re going to leave him for someone else, but he will start to worry that something’s not quite right.
References: lovepanky.com, bolde.com
