Being newlyweds is difficult, especially when a baby lives with your in-laws. Rain, 19, finds herself in this very situation, constantly disagreeing with her mother-in-law over household rules. Rain feels overwhelmed, and the situation worsens when she finally expresses her concerns. She sought advice and looked to us for assistance.
This is Rain’s letter
I live with my in-laws because we’re 21 and can’t afford our own place while raising our baby. My mother-in-law expects me to clean up their mess and even do the family laundry. I told my husband, “Show some backbone and defend me! I’m not your mom’s maid!”
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Later, I came home and was surprised to see that all of my belongings were gone from our room; my closet was empty. My mother-in-law had prepared my suitcase and placed it next to the door. She said, “If you can’t respect my rules in my house, then you’re no longer welcome.”
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The worst part was that my husband just shrugged and said, “Maybe it’s better if you go to your parents’ house for a while with the baby until things calm down.”
I reminded him that I had left everything and moved miles away to be with him, then I left. I feel completely helpless.
Now, I’m back at the house, but things are even more tense than before. What should I do?