Sometimes some ladies find themselves in some kind of relationship they don’t want, but because they are either scared of loosing him(fiance or boyfriend), or because of what they think people will say, so they tend to still stay with the guy and hopes he changes for better.
We will be discussing with us in this article 5 kinds of things that if you as a lady starts or have been noticing them in your man, it’s better you leave him alone before it gets worse.
1. He gets violєnt, even if he doesn’t hit you
You may think this is a no-brainer but honestly it isn’t. Most women I know who have been in abusivє relationships have immense strength, only to shut down in the presence of her partner’s angєr and violєncє. As a strong woman myself, I froze when a guy I would been dating went into a rage one night, throwing things, damaging property and calling me names. I knew it was a deal breaker because even though he didn’t put his hands on me, he scared me. No healthy relationship can be built off a foundation of fear because you never know when his actions may escalate.
2. He chєats on you
Many people will say this point is debatable because lots of couples who have fidєlity issues repair their relationship and end up in a better than where they were pre-chєating. But it’s not the act of chєating that’s the deal breaker here, it is the disrespect, broken trust and significant risk to your health. (Hello, STDS!) With all the risks that hang in the balance for just a tiny bit of pleasure, it is entirely inconsiderate and selfish when a man chєats on you. Do you want someone who puts his wants before your needs, like security and trust? I don’t, which is why I have said goodbye to chєating men.
3. He always keeps secrets from you.
Some men are good at this behavior but it is bad. As a lady, if you start noticing or have been noticing that your man keeps a lot of things from you and only tells you the less important things.
You both said you’re in a relationship, then why should you keep secrets from each other, maybe as a lady you start hearing things about your man from strangers, whereas he ought to have told you about it. Move on with your life because such relationship won’t last.
4. He always takes you for granted.
This is another thing you should take note of as a lady. If you’re noticing that your man usually takes you for granted, as in, he doesn’t care about what you do for him, he doesn’t even reciprocate the sacrifices you have once made for him. Beware of this as a lady, flee away because he is not the right one for you.
5. He gaslights you.
We’ve spoken about gas-lighting, which is the manipulative act of someone attempting to change your memory or perception of events in their favor, making you feel crazy or like you’ve forgotten something. But when is gas-lighting a deal breaker, you ask? The answer is when it happens! A man who resorts to manipulative tactics to have his way or ‘win’ an argument will continue to play mind games and be dishonest with you. When I experienced gas-lighting in my relationships, I felt crazy and my self-esteem plummeted until I understood the game that was being played. Take advantage of the situation and leave immediately — it’s the best thing you can do for yourself.
Sources: ng.opera.news, austinemedia.com
