Trust, respect, and support are essential for a strong connection in any relationships. Some partners, however, may attempt to control the other, which may lead to imbalance and stress.
This behavior, influenced by insecurities, power dynamics, or psychological issues, can manifest in various ways, from subtle manipulation to outright dominance. Recently, a woman reached out to the Reddit for advice regarding her husband’s irrational demand.
She wrote:
“This is the weirdest thing my husband has ever done. He really is a sweet and loving husband, and I love him more than anything. My husband has always been a little out there. He is a computer programmer and super smart, but also believes all sorts of things. Both real and conspiracy.
Lately, he has been very worried about the environment and global warming. About two months ago, he got real worried about water. Yes, water. He is concerned about the quality of water. He put in a new filter system in our house, which I actually love because it tastes so much better.
But he is also concerned about how much water we use. Not because of money, but the environment. He created a new rule that we can only take 2 showers a week. Now, I’m someone that likes to shower every day before bed. I just don’t like feeling dirty in bed.”
She went on saying:
“This has created the most conflict in our marriage in 20 years. He became obsessed with the amount of water we use. At first, I just ignored his rule, but he would shut off the hot water while I was in the shower. I started trying to use the shower at the gym, but it’s too much work to go every night with having kids. I honestly thought he would get over this within a month. But he is stuck on this still to this day.
Last night, I really needed a shower, but had ’hit my quota’ as he says. I said I’m showering and that he’d better not do anything. But about two minutes in, he turned off the hot water. I grabbed my towel and went down and started yelling. Telling him this is the dumbest thing he has ever done. I also told him I’m moving to my parents if he doesn’t stop this.
Guys, I feel trapped now as I really love this man. He is everything to me, but I can’t take this anymore. Am I going too far in threatening to move out?”
