- It’s never easy to cut someone out of your life. And when it comes to family, its especially hard to accept that a family member is creating so much stress, anxiety, and pain that you cant continue to have a relationship with them.
This post is for all of you who are struggling to decide whether to continue a relationship with a difficult or toxic family member.
Relationship ties
Toxic ties may come from your ancestors, and are often related to specific patterns and trauma. Someone’s bad behavior and low vibration actions may be a matter of genes. It is a problem that has been carried through many generations. The good news is that you can change tour relationships. You have to be in the right relationship with yourself. Many of the problems you have may be a reflection of your relationship with yourself.
These are the ties that bond you and, that’s how you relate to others. Having a healthy relationship means cutting toxic ties and creating positive ones. Ties may be related to specific place, thing or behavior.
Relationship grow and change, and you can guide them into a healthy pattern through awareness and conscious effort.
Getting old is an inevitable part of your life, and you become empowered individuals that have developed a level of independence.
Healthy relationships help you develop into a leader without any negative ties. You may spend less time with other people, but you will definitely appreciate ever moment.
This list will help you identify toxic ties and heal yourself. You will make decisions with confidence, and that will help you build healthier relationships with your beloved once.
Healthy communication patterns should focus on “I” and “we,” while unhealthy ties are often poisoned with “you” and “they.” Use this to cut toxic ties and turn things to a better side.
Cross boundaries
Communicate about your boundaries and discuss the consequences that come after violating them. If some people push your boundaries too often, say ‘goodbye,’ and make sure they understand your reasons for acting that way. Don’t give people the negative attention they hope for and control your emotions.
Overly judgemental
You don’t need people who constantly judge your life choices. Listen to what they have to say, but make sure they realize that you don’t like to judge others or be judged.
Help those people understand that they are doing a bad thing. Be their best example. Share articles about people who have done good to society or tell your judging friends or family members that you have made a donation.
When one of your relatives criticizes you all the time, help them understand how you feel. What are their motives? If they keep doing that, just step aside and stay away from them.
They never apologize
Some people just won’t apologize for anything they do. If you don’t get an apology, tell them how it makes you feel, and make sure they understand that you need an apology. If your friends or family members don’t like to acknowledge their part in a situation, pay attention to their attitude, and change something.
They are in trouble all the time
Everyone needs peace and stability. Some people just can’t stay away from trouble. Try to help them, but don’t lose your self-respect. Help them learn from their mistakes and improve their situation. They should never even try to gain negative attention through their trouble.
They are not consistent
If some of your relatives make you feel like you are waling on eggshells, tell them how you feel. Letting someone manipulate and control you is the worst thing you can do. Acknowledge their problem, and express yourself. We all deserve better.
Tell them how you expect to be treated. If they cross the boundary, explain their mistake and share your feelings.
Selfish people
Reciprocation is an important part of every relationship. Having selfish people around you doesn’t really help much. Some people are just too focused on themselves and aren’t even aware of that. Self-centered people often take you for granted and even walk all over you.
Spend more time with people who support and take care of you. Some people may need a hand in that one, and you are here to help them realize their mistake. You can sometimes turn a toxic relationship into something great. Don’t let others disrespect you and tell them how you want to be treated.
References: funnystation.net, psychcentral.com
