It is very common that there is tension between mothers-in-law and their daughters-in-law is. Jealousy is a likely possibility, as a result of uncertainty about what to expect, and what the motives and intentions of the other person are. Tensions can peak if a mother feels her son’s wife is trying to interfere in her mother-son relationship.
In order to avoid unnecessary drama and get some peace in your marriage, here are some sure ways to deal with a jealous mother-in-law
1. Understand her feelings
All women are quite emotional. So, instead of retaliating or fighting with her, try to first understand her feelings and the cause of the revolt.
2. Acknowledge the bond between her and her son
You need to show your mother-in-law that your marriage with her son isn’t going to hamper the mother-son relationship existing between them.
3. Give her attention
Regular phone calls, text messages and even occasional visits will let her know that she is on your mind, and this will go a long way to smoothen your relationship with her.
4. Give her gifts/surprises
You can ask your husband of the likes and dislikes of your mother-in-law. Surprise her with gifts and this will make her happy and also welcome you with open arms.
5. Keep her involved in your family
Keeping your mother-in-law involved in your family, like seeking for her advice on parenting and home making can make you win her over.
6. Avoid conflict
In order to maintain peace in the house, it is better to avoid fights and discussions that could lead to fights. Fights will only make things worse by causing more bitterness in the family. It will make other family members unwantingly choose sides. Your marriage will be the relationship that gets most affected by all this.
7. Talk to your husband
Having a conversation with your husband about your mother-in-law’s behaviour could turn out to be helpful. Don’t complain to him about her. Just tell him some of the things that could be bothering you. Ask him to reach out to his mother and find the root cause in a friendly way. The son might be able to get through to his mother better than you and help end the war.
